Friday Flashback-Cultivating a Heart of Thanks

Have you ever known or had someone close to you (or maybe been the person yourself) that gripes and grouses about everything? Literally EVERYTHING?

There is someone (not in my immediate family) that is never, ever happy with anything. If you get them a present-you paid too much or it wasn’t what they wanted. If you take them out to eat-it takes too long to be seated or tastes lousy. If you clean their house-you didn’t sweep up all the dirt or remember to clean the front porch. If you do their laundry-you used too much detergent or not enough, etc.

You get the picture-there is ALWAYS something wrong. A deeply ingrained sense of entitlement causes the kind acts of others to feel as if it those acts were the least they could possibly do. Therefore, the slightest flaw in their attempts at kindness causes those attempts to inevitably fall short.

It took me a long, long time to realize that the complaining and grousing were not really about what was or wasn’t right. It was about the complainer not being happy with themself. This inherent unhappiness clouds everything and makes it impossible to see the good.

How sad. There are so many things to be happy about in the situations mentioned above. When you are on the receiving end of all the complaining and negativity, it is really challenging to want to continue with giving the person your time, energy and gifts.

I can’t truthfully say I haven’t fallen victim to negative thoughts and emotions, so this isn’t a condemnation of the previously mentioned person. It’s more of a warning, mostly to myself. I am around this person almost daily, and it is very easy for my depression-prone, health challenged, physically worn out self to fall into the negative, ungrateful trap.

I’m choosing to try, starting today, to be more grateful and to rely on the following verses to encourage me to be thankful and to love others. Even though the person isn’t my enemy (as referenced in two of the following verses), I plan to still give gifts, as I’m able.

Psalm 118:24 This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.

Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Proverbs 25:21, 22 If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink: For thou shalt heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord shall reward thee.

Romans 12:20, 21 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

(Revised and updated from original published in 2013)

4 thoughts on “Friday Flashback-Cultivating a Heart of Thanks

    1. RobbyeFaye Post author

      Thank you, dear one. I struggle with being able to love someone that doesn’t and just flat won’t accept your kindnesses but instead dissects them to pieces. Thankfully, Someone greater, wiser and kinder than I can work a miracle!
      Blessings, my sweet friend!



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